My Sister Poured Wine On Me. Then The Family Video Started Playing-eirian

Cold Merlot slid down my forehead and into my collarbone before anyone at that table decided whether I was a daughter, a sister, or a problem that had finally become inconvenient.

For one second, the room did not sound like a family dining room.

It sounded like liquid dripping onto linen.

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The wine struck the white tablecloth in thin red drops, one after another, while six people sat in the house my sister loved calling hers and watched me decide what kind of woman I was going to be next.

Kira was still standing over me with the empty bottle in her hand.

She looked immaculate.

That was always the most confusing part of growing up with her.

Kira could lie with mascara still perfect, cry without her lipstick smearing, and ruin a person without raising her voice above dinner-party volume.

Our mother, Helen Ellis, had taught her that presentation was the closest thing to innocence.

Our father, Grant, had taught her that confidence could cover almost any hole in a story.

And I had taught her, without meaning to, that I would usually be the one punished when she needed a place to put blame.

That lesson started before I had language for it.

When I was six, Kira cut the fringe off my mother’s good curtains and cried so hard that Helen asked me why I had been jealous of my sister’s sewing project.

When I was nine, Kira broke a crystal candy dish during one of my father’s client dinners and told everyone I had bumped the sideboard.

When I was thirteen, she copied my science project, won a school prize with it, and then said I was being “sensitive” when I pointed out my handwriting on the original note cards.

The truth, in this family, was not a fact. It was a vote.

Kira usually had three votes before I entered the room.

Helen’s vote came wrapped in maternal concern.

Grant’s came disguised as reasonableness.

Kira’s came with tears, charm, or rage, depending on which costume fit the moment.

Mine came late, small, and treated like attitude.

For years, I thought adulthood would cure it.

I thought mortgages, funerals, jobs, medical bills, holidays, and the exhausting machinery of real life would make everyone too tired to keep pretending Kira never did anything wrong.

I was naive enough to think evidence mattered.

Grandmother Rosalyn was the only person who never joined the family chorus.

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